resiliency

That Day When Grief and Joy Co-Exist  When a date is significant for more than one reason, how do we value the multiple meanings associated with the same time marker? Sometimes a date calls for the remembrance of two or more happy occasions like two people we love sharing a birthday. At those times, we generally […]

“Friendshipping” During your entire lifetime you meet people, at times, daily.  Most encounters are a meet and greet when you share particular conversations and you may never encounter the person again, like when waiting to get a tire changed or at the grocery store check-out.  Other times you meet people in social settings and share a

“On Your Own”   The importance of spending part of your life “on your own “cannot be over-emphasized in cultivating your resiliency. First, “on your own “does not mean alone, quite the contrary! I rather think of “on your own “as being on your own terms. You can do what you want, with whom you

When Your Spear and Your Shield Become Invincible What happens when an immovable force meets an unstoppable object?   This classic paradox known as the irresistible force paradox has also been known as the shield versus the spear paradox. The inquiry derives from the supposed contradiction that occurs when two equally powerful forces confront one

BORN ON THE IDES OF MARCH I was born on the Ides of March.  Most of us know the Shakespearean phrase “Beware the Ides of March,” as the warning to Julius Caesar that he ignored and thus wound- up dead, as in assassinated! I decided that any negative connotations relating to the date of my birth

THERE WILL ALWAYS BE MILESTONES AND MARKERS     Our lives are full of milestones and markers.  Birthdays, anniversaries, graduations and weddings are milestones that easily come to mind.  Days that recall a death, a divorce or a diagnosis are difficult markers. When you add up all of your personal milestones and markers then add

Get to Know Your Super-Power The Power of Creativity   Did you know you have a super-power? We all do! Like eyes and ears that process your everyday experiences or lungs that facilitate your breath, your brain and soul merge within you giving birth to your creativity. Actually you use your creativity every day. When you

Holidays Are Heartbeats Among the greatest challenges to resiliency are holidays. Like an uninvited visitor, holidays arrive at your doorstep, bang incessantly at your door to come in, and then expect you to entertain them with food and frivolity. If you’re like me, the perpetuality of holidays makes you feel like you’d rather stay in

Happy People Helping People Strengthens Resiliency When you think of ways to strengthen your own resiliency, chances are your first instinct is to think about ways you can improve your own behavior and outlook. Although thinking about and implementing new approaches relating to yourself is a good idea, did you ever think to not focus

The Winds of Change Sometimes as your life changes, you open up new spaces to let in new people, new experiences, new inner strength—all that may not have happened if everything stayed the same. Observing nature and the natural cycles of the seasons for instance, change is a constant. Flowers develop, bloom and die. Leaves