Standing In The Power Of Kindness

Have you ever felt that someone backed away from your authentic kindness?  There you are, being thoughtful, saying thoughtful things and meaning them, trying to forge a connection, and the recipient of your kindness backs off, or flat out rejects you.  My dears, those are NOT your people, and they DO NOT deserve to have someone as special you in their life. Let them exist as they are, and wish them well in your thoughts, and you move on to live your best life.

 

Folks, kindness is not weakness, it is strength, it is confidence, it is power built from struggles and self-awareness. Never allow people who  perceive your kindness as a weakness or that it is an open door to manipulate you take one inch from you.  In fact, those kindness killer people are merely intimidated by you. They do not possess the self-confidence to be kind because they are afraid of being vulnerable. A confident person is not afraid of being vulnerable because they know they are resilient having survived and thrived through life’s trials and tribulations.

 

You can be a kind person and say no to people and situations that are unhealthy for you.  Saying NO does not make you unkind, it is authentic. How many people have you met that perceive themself as “kind” because they do certain things and act in certain ways but they are not doing so from an authentic place, they are doing so out of obligation or convention? Their thought is that,” If I do XYZ people will think I am a kind person.”  They do the “expected” or “right” thing because they need others to think they are “kind” but if they were being truly honest with themself they would probably not want to do it!  

 

Authentic kindness is not based on a sense of obligation, convention or duty. Authentic kindness is a manifestation of your true feelings, it is part of your DNA; that is the legitimate power of kindness. An authentic kind gesture is not fake or based on weakness and insecurity. Authentic kindness is strong, powerful and self-aware only to be shared with others who appreciate and value your sincerity. 

 

The resilient person is kind because their kindness derives from the power of authenticity.

 

Linda Joy Walder